“What you seek is seeking you” -Rumi-
My colleague asked me if her intention to get married makes her look desperate.
Both yes and no. Pessimist will think yes you are being desperate. But we need to look at the good side of it. It is vital to begin anything in life with a pure intention, whereas i view it as a form of preparation. Preparing ourselves spiritually, mentally and physically.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” -Rumi-
Marriage is no joke. Many engross so much on the topic of wedding day itself that they forgot to prepare themselves for the life after marriage, where the new journey of two hearts and souls start.
I had a brief chat with one of the bosses at my place when he came back from visiting the holy city of Mecca. He told me that back then when he was attached to a FMCG MNC, he was too busy and didn’t have the time for relationship, so he wasn’t seeing anyone. Until he moved to one of the local bank and developed the thought of getting married. He is now happily married for 8 years.
Let me share two stories of two lovely girls in my life. One got married 8 months after sudden intention to get married. I could till re-call her message in December 2012. How could i forget since i was with him at that time. And 3 months later her 2-year boyfriend proposed.
Ok the other girl’s story is a bit different. She was afraid of relationship. Running away from it. We were colleagues and i believed since she worked at the previous company i was attached to, her career flourished. She seems stable. Hence, without realising it or subconsciously, one part of her life has settled down and was preparing her for the next big thing. She is now 1 week married after being in relationship less than a year. But god was preparing her for this new life (maybe) 2years and a half ago.
Therefore i personally think with the thought, it allows love to enter us. As we slowly open up ourselves to it. Learning to accept and compromise the flaw of others. Most importantly, putting in the effort to make it work.
“The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” -Rumi-